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SO, AFTER eight years of playing a happy English family, Madonna and Guy Ritchie are going their separate transatlantic ways.Apparently, one of the reasons the marriage broke up was that the Material Girl wouldn't share her mountains of cash, leaving "poor" Guy to foot all the bills - lock, stock and barrel. Or was it the other way around?You'd think that with US$525 million (S$770 million) in her bank and US$35 million in his, there'd be no need to quarrel over who paid for popcorn at the movies.
It just goes to show that in marriages, it's not the size of bank accounts that matters; it's the attitude that accompanies the bank accounts.Because, if you take away a few hundred million pounds, screaming crowds and a Scottish castle (oh, and a pointy bra or two), let's face it, Maddie and Guy could be you or me.Dual-career couple, frequent and prolonged separations due to work, arguments over different extra-curricular interests, resentment over money issues, young kids to bring up... Sound familiar?One thing's for sure: Marriage isn't for wimps. There's something about marriage that, by definition, requires two people to give up "mine" and "yours" in order to create an "ours".
And that's not an easy call to make in an age that celebrates individual achievement and self-interest.From childhood, we are encouraged to compete fiercely for success, recognition and material rewards, only to suddenly find these principles ill-suited to marriage.Perhaps that's why it's not uncommon these days to find couples who keep their financial resources secret, who fall out over divergent career demands, or who find it too hard to compromise their careers and personal goals to have children.